I'll just share a couple things. 1) In the past, I have figured out that where things usually get testy between me and other posters is when things aren't going well. Obviously, this is one of those times, so I'm going to refrain from posting all of my thoughts and honestly when I go quiet, you'll know it ain't looking good (to me). 2) However, to offer some hope (and perspective hopefully), I will share this....
Me and three of my meteorologist friends do something pretty nerdy every year: we've created a winter snowfall competition that is essentially fantasy draft picks. We break up the weeks from November through March into 4 or 5 day windows, and then have a draft. So your first round pick is the 4 or 5 day window you think is most likely to see snow (at RDU). I'll also add we make these picks independently with no prior discussions about what we are seeing.
Here were four meteorologists #1 picks for their window where they felt RDU was most likely going to snow based on what we analyzed back in November: 1/31 - 2/4, 2/5 - 2/9, 2/10 - 2/14 (me), 2/15 - 2/19. Take that for what you will. In our collective opinions, winter wasn't even going to really get started until February, and all four of us also predicted above-normal seasonal snowfall at RDU. There's nothing to change that thinking as of now.
I get the emotions and the frustrations. I will track anything that moves during winter, and yes I have had a pity party about TN and MS getting snow in a -NAO pattern that looks so good on static maps, but when I look at the placement and retrograding of the TPV westward, I do understand why (too far west, the same problem we've had for years now). In some regards, it is reassuring to know that meteorology still works the same way it always has, and it'll reward the same way it always has when we get just a little bit of atmospheric help.